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Willlllllingness is sooo important to bring to the table when trying ANY DBT skill 😝, but (yes, “but”! ) if it still doesn’t “work,” NEVER forget that there is VALUE in ANY suffering you TOLERATE without making it worse. Wtf does THAT mean??? It means that suffering ISN’T WASTED. I swear it’s not. 🙏It’s used to build you up and it chips away at the old block of marble that keeps you trapped...even though you can’t see it. Just like physical discomfort happens at the gym, it doesn’t mean it’s hard fil. EVERY time you don’t do anything to make the problem WORSE, suffering you experience helps build and grow you toward your personal “life worth living.” Sometimes it feels terrible and you think you won’t make it. Hold on. It’s a 🌊 that will pass. The bigger the wave, the more change can happen. Tuck under the wave and notice the tranquility 🐬🐳🐠 🌊✨or stay on top and 🏄♀️ 🌊😘 . . . #dbt #dbtskills #radicalacceptance #distresstolerance #dbtmemes #distresstoleranceskills #dialecticalbehaviortherapy #willfulness #dbttherapy #dbttherapist #therapymemes #therapistsofinstagram #mytherapistsays #mytherapy #bpd #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #lifeworthliving
“How could I know every single purpose for which I was created, when I did not create myself” - Autumn Miles⠀ ⠀ What is in you that you do not see?⠀ ⠀ So many times we catch ourselves saying “Oh I don’t do that. Thats just not who I am.”⠀ ⠀ When God tells us to do something, we go “No, thats not what I want to do”⠀ ⠀ I think sometimes we don’t realize what God has put inside of us.⠀ ⠀ Is God asking you to do something outside of your comfort zone? I hope the answer to that is yes, because thats when faith grows. ⠀ ⠀ Nothing extraordinary comes out of our comfort zone. We have to be stretched in order to be strengthened. We have to be pushed in order for God to show us all that He has deposited in us. ⠀ ⠀ Sometimes that means stepping out even when you’re uneasy and unsure. The beautiful thing about God is that it only takes one itty bitty step of faith, and He does the rest. ⠀ ⠀ When we dream so big that we can’t imagine how we could accomplish it, that’s when God gets glorified. ⠀ ⠀ When’s the last time you gave yourself permission to dream BIG? ⠀ ⠀ This year my mom, my sister, and I have turned many dreams into reality. Thankful for this fierce community of mine that coaching brought to my life ✨⠀ ⠀ But we want to invite other women of God who are willing to be obedient in helping women grow physically, spiritually and financially.⠀ ⠀ We are inviting you to a call to take a look at what we do as coaches! ⠀ ⠀ When?⠀ On February 25th at 6 CST.⠀ ⠀ Fill out the first form in my bio to book your space and receive the link. ⠀ ⠀ Can’t wait to see you there!⠀ ⠀ xo Rachel💖
POR DENTRO // Whenever you feel like going outside of you for relief, go inward instead.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #JosiewiththeGems #ModernTherapist #MillenialTherapist #TherapistsofInstagram #NYCTherapist #BlackSocialWorker #LatinxSocialWorker #MentalHealth #EmotionalHealth #NYCTherapy #Therapist #Therapists #Therapy #BlackMentalHealth #LatinxMentalHealth #LMSW #LCSW #LMFT #LMHC #NYCCouplesTherapist #NYCCouplesCounseling #BlackCouplesTherapist #LatinxCouplesTherapist
When you feel like you are suffering from your mental health, pay attention - what is it specifically? You’ll notice it’s a feeling (or a numbness ) like pressure, apprehension, frustration, anxiety, shame, guilt, dislike, struggle etc. When that feeling is strong or chronic, it’s also a physical feeling, tension, tightness, stiffness, headaches, sore jaw, heaviness, exhaustion etc. But go further - those feelings are coming from thoughts, beliefs and limits that you keep confirming to yourself. “I’ve made a mess of this, I’m getting this wrong, I’m not good enough, this will never get better, this is going to go so wrong, nobody cares enough to help me, this will never change, nobody cares” etc etc etc. Sometimes you are SO used to these thoughts, that you don’t even notice that they are there at all! Know this - these thoughts are unfinished, they are not there just to be accepted and believed, they are purely a sign of where your beliefs have landed. Yes, they may seem true, you may currently be in a reality that supports them, but I promise, they are only a perspective. Just one. Others are available. Positive thinking doesn’t work in most cases because the ‘negative’ stuff can’t just be pushed aside or overwritten. Your mind believes it has evidence for the negative, and therefore has negative beliefs, and THOSE have to be dealt with as well. It’s not knowing what to do with those thoughts and beliefs that cause the suffering, because when you don’t know what to do with them, they stay, and you keep believing in them and on and on that cycle goes. They become brain habits, and feel so natural (even when it’s painful ) that you believe it’s the only way for you. It isn’t. Not by a long shot. Your brain is matter that stores information but your mind is a muscle and you can train it. It’s not about piling on positive thoughts, it’s about building strength and resilience, knowing where those thoughts and beliefs came from and why they have stuck so hard, and more importantly, learning how to deal with them, not suffer them. It changes everything when you actually apply this stuff. Ask my members. Continued 👇🏼
❤️ #Repost @theothersideofsaved with @get_repost ・・・ Apologies are meant for wrong doing, not wrong being. It’s not possible for you to be responsible for someone else’s inappropriate behavior. . . There is a lot of new language around “living unapologetically.“ Here’s what that means to me: I once was forced to apologize to keep a toxic system moving. I once was made to apologize because my abuser did not have the courage to heal themselves. I was once made to apologize because my being was so profound, that it threatened the lifeless agenda around me. Living unapologetically means...I will no longer apologize so others feel safe abusing. . . I will move into myself. I will rescue that young child who was taught that they’re being provoked anger. I will summon the parts of me who are afraid to relax and be exposed. I will joyfully express myself, with love, respect and vigor towards further healing. And I will dismiss the messages that tell me my being has the power to provoke someone else’s darkness. . . #trauma #traumabond #codependency #toxicrelationship #motherwound #fatherwound #dysfunctionalfamily #emdr #emotionalhealing #reparenting #innerchildwork #innerchild #innerchildhealing #childhoodtrauma #internalfamilysystems #emdrtherapy #traumarecovery #healingtrauma #traumainformed #estranged #therapistsofinstagram #lcsw #cptsdrecovery #selfhealers #narcissisticabusesurvivor #scapegoat #gaslightingawareness #religioustrauma #theothersideofsaved
Forgiveness is a hard pill to swallow sometimes but it leads to true freedom. 💪🏼🧠❤️ #rollupyoursleeves #mentalhealth #therapyiscool #mentalhealthawareness #selfcare #selfcareisthenewstrong #endthestigmaofmentalhealth #endthestigma #suicideprevention #loveisstrongerthanhate #staywoke #usingsocialmediaforgood #helpforhelpers #buildingbetterhumans #strongminds #resilience #courage #emotionalcourage #therapistsofinstagram #counselorsofinstagram #psychologistsofinstagram
Ooooh- this one is a goodie because it hits home quite hard for me! How often do you hide behind the simple phrase, "I'm fine"? ⠀ ⠀ It is so much easier to say these words than to truly deal with what we are feeling, or to block ourselves from reaching out to others. Maybe it makes our home life or relationship easier to skip over the hard stuff. ⠀ ⠀ The fact is, many of us gloss over our true feelings on a daily basis because of these reasons, or simply because we don't know what it is that we are feeling. Challenge yourself to become emotion fit and strengthen your emotional vocabulary...and once you have done this, you might feel more empowered to speak your truth when it feels comfortable for you. ⠀ ⠀ #therapistsofinstagram #psychologistsofinstagram #feelings #EQ #empoweredliving #selfhealing
A page from my book “Haiku on living with you”. • We are nothing if not our senses. Yet modern life encourages us to ignore those felt senses by turning our attention instead to the pursuits of consumerism, technology and materialism. The more we crave “stuff” outside of ourselves, the less time we spend listening to what is inside us. • I find the practise of Focusing helpful when I’m trying to tune into myself. Started by the psychotherapist Eugene Gendlin, it involves listening to your body and your inner sense of knowing, fostering a curiosity in our deepest felt senses through compassionate attention. Please note - the below exercise is not suitable for people with PTSD/ complex trauma. In these cases, the importance of working with an experienced therapist is key. • Here’s a simple focusing exercise: 1. Sit on a chair. Feel your feet flat on the floor, and relax your body into the chair. 2. Close your eyes if you wish, listen to the sounds in the room around you and accept them. Similarly accept the smells/textures around you. 3. Notice your breathing, and slow it down if you’re feeling anxious. 4. Turn your attention towards the felt sensations in your body. Find the one that feels strongest, to focus on. 5. Notice the colour, shape and the sensation of that area of your body. For example, if you feel an area of pressure in your chest, give it a colour (say, red ) and see it inside you. 6. Ask yourself, is this red area hard, soft? Does it pulse or vibrate? Does it feel still, full, empty? Does it hurt? 7. Ask yourself, what is this area trying to do - is it, for example, trying to push up into your throat and out of your mouth? Is it trying to push people away, or is it trying to invite people closer? 8. Ask yourself, what are the words contained in this area? For example, is this red area holding the words “pain”, or “help me”, “fear”, “joy”, “don’t touch”. Just listen to what words come from this area and acknowledge them to yourself. 9. Keeping your focus on that area, put your hand on it and say to it “I hear you, I understand”. • 10. If it feels right to you, send love to that area of your body. Or simply let it be there in you. #haiku
YOU ARE NOT A BURDEN. You are an opportunity. Give people the chance to show up for you #thursdaythoughts . . . . . . . #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #wellbeing #mindset #quotestoliveby #quotesaboutlife #quotesdaily #therapistsofinstagram #therapy #youmatter #motivation #selfcarethreads #positivepsychology #positivequotes #kindness #selfcompassion #traumarecovery #selfbeliefquotes
So grateful for all my new followers as well as my ride or die followers who supported me through my first webinar!! I’m so happy I could sing you a song 😆 🎶 🎸 . If you know anyone who is struggling with their relationship, who is ready to heal and do the work, send them my way! I will be happy to give a consult call for free: use the coupon code FREECHAYTEA on my website! Link in bio: “Talk to Me”!! . . #therapistsofig #therapistsofcolor #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealth #ineedtherapy #ineedhelp #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthresource
Ask yourself how happy you are. The question automatically summons your remembering self, which will focus on any recent change in your life – marriage or divorce, new job or home. You’ll then think about this novel event, which in turn will increase its importance and influence your answer.
Reposted from @writenowladybug ( @get_regrann ) - OUCH Reposted from @mahyar .nili Posted @withregram • @notesfromyourtherapist You don’t have to look far to see how much our culture has to use shame to override human biology and our deep need for connection to others. . . . . #emotionalneglect #relationaltrauma #emotions #attachmenttheory #feelings #emotionalintelligence #vulnerability #compassion #selfacceptance #depression #anxiety #loneliness #trauma #anxiousattachment #anxiouslyattached #innerchild #innerchildhealing #somaticexperiencing #somatictherapist #spiritualtherapist #connection #intimacy #love #queertherapist #therapistsofinstagram #relationalhealing #safety #loved #youareenough #traumahealing
We all have narcissistic traits. There’s a difference between healthy and unhealthy narcissism. To read more you can visit the link in my bio 🔗 . . . #narcissism #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #narcissistabuse #npdsurvivor #npdawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #traumabonding #gaslighting #lovebombing #toxicrelationships #relationaltrauma #emotionalabuse #narcawareness #narcopath #narcissisticparent #narcissisticmother #counselling #psychotherapy #counsellor #psychotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #counsellorsofinstagram #newframetherapy #stalbans
So this is the Eastern Shore Psychology team 🤩😍😍😍 So proud of these ladies and we had such a lovely high tea Wrest Point Casino Revolving Restaurant last Sunday. Sadly for us, it was because Allison Wells - Clinical Psychologist is leaving us at the end of March, for an incredible new venture. Allison is now the owner of The Crawley Clinic - Dr Tess Crawley & Associates, the Hobart branch. It's an amazing opportunity for Allison and we wish nothing but good fortune to come her way (which it will )! We'll miss her ability to put humour into every situation and to find song lyrics to match 😂 And her support for me personally and the business, as things have grown, has helped incredibly. I'm going to have to do some of my own EMDR are on this to cope 😂😂😂 But, never fear, Allison and Tess and already working on collaborations (or collaboradates is the term we like to use! ) Cheers to Allison, the ahmazing therapist funny therapist, business supporter, business owner and awesome friend 😍😍 And massive ups to Serena for organising our shindig @structuredwithserena 😍😍 @allisonwellsclinicalpsych @dr .tess.crawley @naturalstatehyp
WHAT DO I WRITE TO MY MAILING LIST? 💌 I was thinking about writing this caption today and packing it out with lots of practical ideas for what to write in your emails to your subscribers. Because that’s what most of you tell me you struggle with. But here’s the thing: You know what to send really. You know you need to add value. You know you need to write something that resonates and makes your readers feel understood. You know you need to send something useful and show them you’re there for them. So what really is the problem? Mindset 🧠 Here’s what you’re really thinking: 😣 No-one wants to read what I have to say 😣 If I send an email people will unsubscribe which means they hate me and my content is useless 😣 I have nothing of value to say to people. They don’t need me. Any of these sound familiar? 🤔 These are all limiting beliefs that you need to tackle to start embracing a mailing list. Because email is a powerful way to engage with your audience and build the know/like/trust that’s needed to get them buying from you 💸 I’m covering all these mindset blocks and more in my Supercharge Your Wellness Business Mailing List Masterclass happening Tuesday 3rd March. Because while yes, I’ll cover the practical tips and tools you need, it’s essential you get your mind in check too 👊🏼 Details of how to book in @vicky .shilling bio 👈🏻 Let me know what you think. Do you have mindset blocks when it comes to growing a mailing list? 💌
What is osteopathy? Osteopathy does not simply treat the presenting symptom but uses a holistic approach, believing that the body will only function properly if it has good structural balance. A range of techniques are used including massage, cranial techniques and joint mobilisation. This allows the treatment to be tailored to each individual. Osteopathy is a holistic treatment using safe and careful manipulation of joints, and a variety of massage and mobilisation techniques. Osteopathy can helpful for: Spinal pain and disc problems Joint pain Trapped nerves Headaches Postural Problems Repetitive Strain Injuries Sports Injuries #osteopathy #backpain #cheshire #cheshirebusiness #cheshiremums #cheshirelife #uk #massage #therapyclinicuk #therapistsofinstagram #cheshirewellbeing #chester #northwich #warrington #ukbusiness #smallbusinessuk #northwales #naturalhealth #warrington #naturalhealthcare #cheshiremums #naturalhealthandwellness #stretton #ukwellness #beehivehouse
In this post, I’d like to answer one of my more frequently asked questions:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ *⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ *⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Q: “Why do I get anxious and/or depressed? “ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ *⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ A: This is a good question and one that is asked by many. But the answer is not a simple one. There could be many factors involved to why someone might feel anxious and/or depressed. See below for a few...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🧠 Brain chemistry/ depletion of neurotransmitters (e.g low levels of serotonin )⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🧠 Hormones⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✉️ Life stressors⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🗣 Adverse childhood experiences 🤰🏻🤱🏻 Perinatal/postnatal .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✍🏻 Beliefs about ourselves, others and the world leading to vulnerability to depression/anxiety ('I am not good enough. I am a failure' ) 😢 Loss/ bereavement ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🙇🏻♀️ Significant traumatic experience/s⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💊 Medication-induced/health problems ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🧬 Genetic vulnerability⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If you would like to discuss any of the above in more detail I offer a free no obligation telephone call so you may start to make sense of your experiences/ discuss your difficulties further. More details in website link in my bio @thetherapyspacechelmsford Don’t forget to drop by my February blog post on your way to find more about coping with panic attacks. * ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ *⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #FAQ #PrivatePractice #Counselling ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #Psychotherapy #CBT #depressionsupport #anxietysupport #whyamidepressed #cognitivebehaviouraltherapy #therapistsofinstagram #instatherapist #askthetherapist #therapyiscool
𝐌𝐚𝐬𝐥𝐨𝐰’𝐬 𝐇𝐢𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐡𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐍𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐬 is motivational theory in psychology that explains the innate human needs in order of importance. The idea is that one cannot move up to achieving the higher levels of the pyramid without first obtaining the needs in the lower levels. For example, it may be hard to have high self esteem if your health or security are being threatened. Or you may struggle with low confidence if your lacking in healthy relationships with friends or family. Are you sleeping well? Are you eating foods that nourish your body? Do you feel secure in your job? Consider what you are trying to achieve- where on the pyramid is it? Then look below that level of your desired achievement and see if your basic needs below that have been met. If not, maybe try focusing more of your energy on fulfilling these basic needs before trying to achieve the desires that are higher up the pyramid. Sometimes just by taking care of our basic needs- sleeping well, living by our morals, choosing healthy relationships- we allow ourselves to grow into a place where we feel the ability to be creative, achieve goals we never believed possible, and be the best most fulfilled version of ourselves (*aka-self actualisation* ).
A documentary looking at the hard to break addiction of food. Airs tonight on @channel5_tv at 10pm (February 20th ). . . . . #addictedtofood #grateful #intherapy #addiction #harleystreet #therapy #therapistsofinstagram #psychology #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthfirst #morethanmypast #mentalhealthadvocate #selflove #selfcare #addictionrecovery #mentalhealth #boundaries #healing #positivethought #personalgrowth #wellness #mandysaligari #recoveryispossible #overeatersanonymous #foodaddictionrecovery #overeating #foodaddiction
#Repost @mindful_tricks • • • • • • New Year's resolution can be quite overwhelming. I even say the way they are commonly perceived can set us up for failure. We all know the 'New year, new me" paradigm. But there is a way we can look at this new year that is more positive and can actually be beneficial. Endings are a way of looking at what we want to leave behind and what are the new things we want to create. The ending of a year is a great way to reflect on what is no longer serving us and set the intention to see and do things differently. But we have to be aware that only the fact that the year is new won't take us where we want. We need consistent action to release old habits. We need to release perfection and allow ourselves to fail. We need to be gentle with ourselves yet have that inner authority that makes us show up. Use the beginning of the year to look at what would you like to release and what would you like to create. Start by asking yourself a few questions: • What behavior/thinking pattern is no longer serving me? • What could I do differently to create a new reality? • How would the person living the life of my dreams act and think? • What do I need to release/create to embody that? And don't forget to love yourself, wherever you may be right now in your journey. 💕 #newyears #newyear #newyearsintention #newyearsgoals #lovenotes #lovenotetomyself #loveyourself #mentalwellness #emotionalhealth #therapistsofinstagram #mindful #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietyhelp #mentalhealthquotes #anxietyproblems #womenmental #lifecoachingtips #psychologyquotes #habits
💜 One of the quotes I hold most true in my personal and professional life. In all my counselling, coaching and therapeutic work, ultimately it is heartbreak of one kind or another that is at the root of pain and suffering. Love takes many forms, but its quality, it’s essence is the much needed healing balm to the wounding of our World. “Eventually, you will come to understand that love heals everything, and love is all there is. The journey may take many lifetimes, but you will complete it. It is impossible not to complete it. It is not a question of if but of when. Every situation you create serves this purpose. Every experience you encounter serves this purpose.” - Gary Zukav, Author: Seat of the Soul I would love to hear your favourite or memorable quotes about love 💕
In a classic line of research on intimate relationships, Clark and Mills (1979 ) demarcate the difference between an “exchange” approach to intimate relationships and a “communal” approach. . . An exchange approach is largely rooted in a mentality of equity, quite similar to the psychology surrounding reciprocal altruism. In a relationship based on reciprocity, there is counting involved and keeping track is part of the deal. . . I cooked, so you should clean up. . . I mowed the lawn, so you should vacuum. . . A “communal” approach to a relationship is different. In a communal approach, the welfare of one’s partner is the focal point. In a purely communal relationship, there is no counting or keeping tabs on who is “under-benefited” or “over-benefited.” . . People who take a communal approach to relationships help their partners not based on calculations of who has done what, but, rather, out of genuine empathy and concern for their partners. . . . Both equally work if both partners agree to using them and don't make a drama out of it. Thus, HAVING SIMILAR VALUES IN REALTIONSHIP IS VERY IMPORTANT. . . . Follow @psychology_tribe for more. Study reference : psychologytoday.com . . . . #psycotherapist #psychologyquotes #indianpsychologist #psychologystudents #psychologistintraining #massagetherapists #psychologisttobe #psychologistinthemaking #mytherapist #psychologyfact #physiotherapists #psychologistlife #yogatherapist #melbournepsychologist #therapistsofinstagram #psychologyclass #clinicalpsychologist #psychology101 #childpsychologist #depthpsychology #psychologydegree #futurepsychologist #psychologistsofinstagram #blackschoolpsychologist #positivepsychologist #counselingpsychology #blackpsychologist #counsellingpsychology #holistictherapist #neuropsychologist
This past summer was intense. I ended a relationship, went to Italy to study Gestalt therapy and realized that I’ve been battling with PTSD for quite some time. The realization of PTSD was probably the most impactful, it put a name to the struggle I’ve been having and wondering “What’s wrong with me?” I finally had a roadmap that gave me some relief and hope that maybe I would be able to climb out of this pit. I made some life changes to create some space for myself. The past 6 months have been filled with self care and a slower pace of life. I finally began feeling like the reservoir had some reserves in it and I was functioning with more ease. I still have difficult days though... And anyone who understands trauma, knows this. It’s not a perfect process, nor will it ever be. Last week was difficult. I went to my serving job in a haze, I couldn’t get grounded and back in my body... But I was determined to show up and make it work. I messed up on almost every single order, I couldn’t find simple things that I’m familiar with, I forgot almost everything that anyone asked of me. And it was busy. Really busy. I was horrified. I knew that I was screwing up but I couldn’t bring my brain back online, no matter what I did. And as the night went on, the deeper into shame I went. I kept telling myself all these nasty things, “you screwed up again! You’re fucking it all up! You’re a mess! You’re getting fired! You’re completely incapable, why would you even think you could do this? You should just quit.” In the therapy world, we call this a shame spiral, and I was balls deep in it. I decided it might be a good idea to let my employer know what was happening with me, first, so she’s aware and second because I couldn’t make it into work because I was paralyzed with anxiety. Again. That message was scary to send, but was received with much grace and kindness. And today, I showed up and I won. I was clear and grounded, I didn’t mess up. Even if just for today, it’s a win and it’s worth acknowledging. #therapistsofinstagram #traumarecovery #ptsdawareness #thestruggleisreal #ittakesavillage #vulnerablepost #embodimentcoach #youcandothis #igotyou
#Repost @theartidote ・・・ "I’m tired of people romanticizing overexertion. Exhausted is not the new chic, coffee (though a delicious necessity ) is not a food group, and running on fumes is not admirable. Why do we hold pedestals for sleepless nights, breakdowns, and inner turmoil? Are those really things to aspire to? Self-care. Balance. The ability to know when your body, mind, and spirit need to take a step back. Those are things we should admire. We have to stop blurring the line between ‘commitment’ and self-endangerment because too many people are burning out before they have a chance to truly shine." —My opinion on the way we envision hard work and the way we should live life (via runningmandz.tumblr.com ) #ThingsThatMakeYouGoHmm artwork by theBrianDeYoung.tumblr.com . . . . . . . . . #therapy #therapistsofinstagram #therapist #illustration #work #balance #worklifebalance #burnout #success #money #stability #rest #relaxation #psychology #psychology_health #sleep
I have to say I am STOKED for this memoir. It is written by Marsha Linehan who is the creator of dialectical-behavioral therapy (DBT ). ✨ So... snapshot. Marsha has a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder and was in and out of hospitals, never really feeling like anything was helpful. She then responded by getting her shit together, getting her damn PhD, and creating this theory of therapy which is now one of the most widely used (not just for BPD but anxiety, depression, & more ), and studied, in the US (potentially other places but I know for sure in the US ). ✨ I just think that is so fucking cool y’all. Plus I’ve been learning more about DBT through my internship and it is a really rad modality. Fun fact: one of the dialectics - almost THE dialectic - is that people are all the time doing the best that they can with what they have AND they can also learn to do/be better. Which I think is amazingly hopeful. ✨ Anyway, likely this will bore some of you but let me know if it’s your jam! Anndddd on an exciting note... on this 19th day of the year, I’ve officially accepted a job for after graduation! 🎉 It just seemed fitting to share with this book. 😄 ✨ Anyway, do let me know your thoughts on this book/ feel free to ask any qs! ✨🌹🐘 #bookstagram #instabook #bibliophile #dbt #dialecticalbehaviortherapy #bpd #marshalinehan #marshamlinehan #booksandfleurs #booksandflowers #memoirs #therapist #booknerd #therapistsofinstagram #buildingalifeworthliving #therapistbooks #therapistbookshelf #readersgonnaread
One of my favorite activities to do with clients is a values card sort. When you ask people what they truly value, I hear them say “friends” as a core value so much of the time. This is certainly true for me as well and integrating my core value of gratitude with friendship is key. Shining a light today on the amazing @paigenv for accepting a post doc in Boston today—they are so lucky to get you!! Cherishing our friendships is key...we cannot take our people for granted. Tag a friend who deserves a shout out and share why—let’s celebrate each other!
From a still and quiet mind, magical things can happen. How to quiet your mind? Here are four ways: 1 ) Journal. 2 ) Sit down and do nothing for 10 minutes. 3 ) Inhale and exhale slower than you inhaled three times. 4 ) Drink a glass of water super slowly.
Toying around with “you spot it you got it”. Looking out for the things that attract me to people and the things that bother me and learning that I can accept, appreciate and show deeper compassion to myself and then love others deeper by staying aware. It also shows where I need to lean into healing.
I had a good check up at the dermatologist today; I went for a skin cancer screening. In September of 2018 I discovered a change in a mole on my belly. It turned out to be melanoma. It was caught early, they removed it and I have a sizable scar to show for it. Do you have any scars? What do they say to you? Today, I let the scar serve to remind me: 🌻To forgive 🌿myself, over and over as needed, for my past neglect and harm I caused to my own body🥀. I used to tan and found my worthiness and attractiveness in being tan. 😳 I recognize it now as a coping 🦚behavior for that time, for a really long time. 🌻I let it remind me that I don't have to be perfect. 🌱I used to pride myself🙄 on having pretty awesome abs. I’m still ok. I’m alright. Scars and changing shape do not lessen me. I’m richer for the wear (C-section scar birthed my son! ). AND, I don’t have to pretend to be 🌈happy and super⭐️ spiritual about it. Acceptance has a grounding, unique ✨elixir. Kindly, softly acknowledging to myself “this is me now,” soothes me. 🌷I make room for all the stories and the truth and resilience folded in the folds. 💫 I can keep strengthening my mind, my body and my heart. 🌻 I let it remind me that my body is my vessel, 🚣♂️the loving precious thing that carries me around to do the things I want to do; to love💚, to share, to commune, to create📙. To move☀️, to rest🛌, to delight 🧚🌳and learn, play, heal 🧸and renew. 🦋 I will care for her the best I can today. I encourage you to join me... nurture your skin, the best that you can today. 💫
God never planned for us to endure the traumas in our life. We live in a fallen broken world as a result of our sin and the enemy’s lie (Genesis 3:6-7 ) ⠀⠀ God’s purpose for His children is for good and not of evil ( Romans 8:28 ) Every good gift of this world comes from Him ( James 1:17 ). ⠀⠀ God knows your suffering , and He wants to meet you in your pain. He will provide healing and restoration for your mind, body , and soul. “ The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; He we will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged” Deuteronomy 31:8 ⠀⠀ #counseling #psychotherapy #traumarecovery #psychotherapist #emdr #recoveryispossible #traumahealing #depressionsupport #mentalhealth #mentalhealthtips #seekhelp #therapistsofinstagram #traumasurvivor #endthestigmaofmentalhealth #complextrauma #surviveandthrive #psychology #emdrtherapist #ptsd #trauma #christiancounselor #christiantherapistsofinstagram #trysofter #gospelhope #followerofjesus #jesusfollowers
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One of the greatest things about my job is being able to witness this. Thanks for the post @nytherapist . . . #sayitoutloud #speakingtruth #therapy #psychotherapy #therapyquotes #talktherapy #talkinghelps #holdingspace #release #ifeelgood #traumahealing #traumarecovery #sometimesyouneedtotalk #therapistlife #meetyouwhereyouare #therapistsofinstagram #talkaboutit #wednesdaymood
You can only take others as far as you are willing to go yourself ✨ Spent the morning with my own therapist so I can actually show up in this room in the other chair for my clients. In all of their vulnerability, I am always reminded of my own and drawn back to my own work. In case you didn’t know, all good therapists, have a therapist 💁🏼♀️
MY TOP CLINICAL TIPS as I finish my last MSW internship rotation. (WHAT WHAATT ) #socialworkerwednesday 1. Be just as confident in what you DON’T know as what you DO know. Be honest and say that you don’t know but you will ask your supervisor about whatever it is. 2. If you forget something a client said...ask them...they will appreciate that you care enough to follow up and ask for clarification. (“What’s your Brother/Bosses/cats name again?” or “I’m sorry I missed what you said could you repeat that?” ) 3. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable and remember it is NOT YOUR JOB to fix people. You hold the space for them to talk about something that’s on their heart and maybe they walk out of your office a little lighter...maybe not. But once they are gone you release it...you can’t hold people’s shit for them. It will tear you apart. 4. Tell your supports how you need to be supported & cared for during this time. They love you and want to help but if you don’t communicate that….they will be aimlessly trying and most likely doing the wrong things. 5. Figure out a self-care routine that works for you. Take a hip hop class, schedule a weekly social outing, fight the urge to isolate yourself from everyone because you are stressed, move your body once a day, fill your body with nutrients and your mind with thoughts self love.
Learning to let go is so difficult. I literally want to hold on and take control of everything I can. I grasp tightly and hold on for dear life. I let worry and anxiety weigh heavily on what could be a really beautiful day. So today, I’m choosing to let go. I’m choosing to let myself relax. Choosing joy over stress. Choosing to be free rather than chained to my worries. It’s going to be okay, friends. It’s going to be okay.
I have never met a complex trauma survivor who does not frequently second guess their inner wisdom. ⠀ And why is that? ⠀ Their inner wisdom was often left unverified. Not only was it left unverified, it was frequently berated and invalidated. This does not stop a person from “sensing when something is off” but they often struggle to validate that sense. There is often a felt need for someone to externally validate their internal experience (makes sense, right? ) ⠀ “Am I seeing this correctly?” Is a frequent question I get from those I counsel. ⠀ In all truth complex trauma survivors are some of the most DEEPLY INTUITIVE and WISE humans I know. They can sense things others do not notice or would never clue into. They are brilliant at noticing subtleties, micro expressions, shifts in a room or person that others would never detect. AND they are often riddled with self-doubt. They are often uncertain of their inner knowing. ⠀ Dear survivor, Your inner wisdom is powerful. It may be buried. It may be hidden under your doubt, but it is there. It has not left you. You are more powerful than you may yet know. ⠀ Love, ⠀ Sara
Stress and trauma are held in the body via our nervous system aka the warning system that controls your flight or fight responses to stress. 🚨🚨🚨⠀ ⠀ Therefore, healing usually requires more than just talk therapy. 🏃♀️💆👩❤️👩⠀ ⠀ Different things will work for different people. Trust your instinct and intuition. Know that your preference will likely change over time. That is both normal and totally okay! ⠀ ⠀ Don't like yoga? Don't do yoga. 😊 There are SO many way to engage the body energetically and heal what is held within. You have permission to do what works for you!⠀ ⠀ Be patient and kind to yourself. You got this. ❤️✨⠀ ⠀ -----⠀ ⠀ ⠀ Want to work with me?⠀ ⠀ 👩🏻💻 Reach out via the Contact button to schedule an appointment for therapy with me or to hear how I might be helpful to you. California only (for now! )⠀ ⠀ ❤️I can’t do therapy over Instagram.
"We don't talk about things like THAT" "Get over it" "Stop being so emotional" "You're making a big deal out of nothing" ...and other family messages like this may convey to a child: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -there's no room for your feelings (so don't have any ) -we don't discuss sensitive issues (so don't try ) -talking about your problems is unacceptable (so don't do it ) -your emotions are too much for me (and so are you ) ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If we're raised with messages like this, we may start doubting our emotional responses and even shame ourselves for having a response in the first place. This can lead to a wobbly sense of self and insecurity, possibly even a pattern of avoiding intimacy in adulthood (even if subconsciously, as with love addiction/love avoidance ). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How do we overcome this? Therapy is of course very helpful, but another step is this journaling/processing exercise: make a list of negative childhood messages, writing out how these messages influenced you in childhood and how they continue to affect you today; then, writing a new narrative about each message. An example might be: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What happened: When I was little and upset/crying, my mother always told me to get over it. The message: I was a burden/unlovable if I showed emotion. Feeling/emotion attached to the message: Shame How this has affected/influenced me: I avoid asking for help and hide my feelings. New narrative: It's ok/healthy to ask for help. Goal: I will ask for help/connect with someone at least once this week ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ (☝🏼That's a simplified example due to the small space but hopefully it provides a little direction to get started ). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Recommended reading: "The Dance of Intimacy" by Harriet Lerner. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #communication #therapy #therapist #loveaddiction #loveaddictionrecovery #loveaddictionawareness #journalsofaloveaddict #therapyworks #boundaries #sober #sobriety #addiction #psychology #therapistsofinstagram #recovery #mentalhealth #traumatherapy #traumahealing #codependency #attachmenttheory #breakingpatterns #journaling
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It's pretty amazing that I ever got anything accomplished during my love addiction; maybe that's because when I wasn't in a relationship, I was super productive and focused on taking care of myself. BUT when I was hooked into a co-addicted dynamic with a Love Avoidant all of that changed - so much of my attention and energy was spent painfully obsessing about my partner that I had nothing left for me (nor did I really notice that I needed any of that attention ). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Love addiction is a brain thing, and just like other addictions to substances and other behaviors, there are three signs that all Love Addicts experience: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 1. Preoccupation (with the person/relationship ): this is the obsession and ruminating and over-focus on every little detail of the relationship, including the planning/plotting/manipulating. 2. Loss of control: once 'hooked' into a co-addicted dynamic, the Love Addict may intellectually know it's unhealthy but subconsciously the attachment wound keeps her/him stuck in the push/pull and feeling powerless; attempts to try to end the relationship may fail. 3. Increased risks and consequences: the aforementioned feeling of powerlessness can lead to depression and self-medicating, and the increased obsession and attachment can lead to loss of friends, decreased contact with family, problems at work/being fired, financial issues. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ For more about the recovery process, see yesterday's IGTV and read "Facing Love Addiction" by Pia Mellody. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #slaa #therapy #therapist #loveaddiction #loveaddictionrecovery #loveaddictionawareness #journalsofaloveaddict #therapyworks #boundaries #sober #sobriety #addiction #psychology #therapistsofinstagram #recovery #mentalhealth #traumatherapy #traumahealing #codependency #attachmenttheory #attachmentwounds #innerchild
Codependent no more... #flowandeasewithe 🌊🧜🏽♀️🌊
In evangelical christianity we were taught much of our value/worth is measured by who god brings to us as a spouse. There’s a lot of language around the man being the spiritual leader (which means a woman can not be as wise, or spiritual even though she is capable of birthing life ). The stories of how they met are tied to god bringing them together as part of his will/plan. . . First, I want none of that. Ever. I want partnership and the freedom to lean on them and vice versa without there being an expectation that one of us is the “head of the household” which will always demean one person. . . Second, I never hear the updated versions of god bringing them together....after their divorces. Did god decide “I don’t want them together anymore.” These are the people who for decades constantly asked why I (& others ) aren’t married. This was not a compliment. This was them being uncomfortable with someone not choosing the same lifestyle they had. So, just a few pointers: . . Some single people, are single because they enjoy being alone more than being with others. . . Some single people had rough upbringings, & they feel safer being alone. . . Some single people are closeted, and have not figured out how to respond to their sexuality. . . Some single people are recovering from a lot of trauma and don’t have room for another. . . Some single people are single because they love the freedom of only being responsible for themselves. . . A lot of single people aren’t sure why they’re single. But, they are sure that being asked that question needs to stop, because their marital status is not an indicator of their value. . . You are loved, loved, loved!! No human can ever love you like you. 💞💞💞 . . #singlesawarenessday #religioustrauma #spiritualabuse #introvertmemes #religioustraumasyndrome #spiritualbypassing #traumainformed #therapistsofinstagram #cyclebreakers #abusesurvivor #exvangelical #churchtoo #exchristian #highlysensitive #highlysensitivepeople #empathproblems #empathsofinstagram #scapegoat #dysfunctionalfamily #emdr #emdrtherapy #internalfamilysystems #traumainformed #lcsw #lmft #selfhealers #theothersideofsaved
When we are in the midst of our anger (frustration, hurt ) it is easy to communicate from our fear based center. However, when it comes to communicating something that resonates with a core need, it is important to slow down and remind ourselves that we must communicate with our partner or loved one in a way that they are able to hear. . I hear couples all the time say, 'it's like were speaking a different language, why do I have to always spell it out a million times? It is like they don't hear me! It goes in one ear and out the other! When I hear this, I get curious and I dig in a little be deeper and say, how are you saying it? And how is it being received?’ . There are exceptions to these examples, where maybe we ARE trying our hardest and our partner is continuing to not show up for us even after a need is being expressed in a responsive way. This requires something much different to explore. Like, what might be holding your partner back from showing up? Or what is their belief around this need being expressed? Does it disrupt their own idea of how this situation is handled or their own core need? . Remember that responsiveness shifts us into a place of being in control of your communication and slows down the emotionality behind our communication. Head over to some of my other posts on reactivity to help you explore what your "reactive triggers" might be. . This takes patience, practice, and A LOT of self-compassion. Remember you are wired with a set of defenses that we are all innately built with. You can do this and your relationships matter 💕💫 . . . . . . #sarahaynestherapy #chicagotherapist #therapistsofinstagram #therapyiscool #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealth #chicagobloggers #therapy #communication #positivecommunication #nonviolentcommunication #helathycommunication #selfawarness #selfcompassion #consciouscommunication #vulnerability #relationshiptherapy #conflictmanagment #relationshiptherapist #couplestherapist #healthyrelationships #findatherapist #johngottman #drjohngottman #gottmaninstitute #emotionalregulation #copingskills